Being a mom means playing many roles, but the last couple of years of pandemic parenting have been a whole new ballgame. As the boundaries between work and life become more blurred in our virtual-first, work-from-anywhere reality, parenting has also changed. We talked to working moms about what it’s really like being a mother right now and how they’re redefining work-life balance. Spoiler: Yes, there’s poop.

Lacey Gutekunst
Chief of Staff, Museum of Women

 is blasting in the background as I negotiate contracts or am giving a presentation and breastfeeding at the same time."

"Some days you'll be working until 9 pm and the kids are eating stale chips. Other days, you're making roasted veggies and sous vide chicken (and they wish they had stale chips!). The most important thing? Try to live a life without guilt. It's hard but so worth it.”

Jessica Torres Cooper
Editorial Director, Hearst Magazines

"A close friend told me: ‘As working moms, we are constantly juggling. But every juggler drops a ball once in a while. The key is knowing what’s a glass ball and which are plastic.’"

Barbara Mortimer
Senior Product Manager, New Stand

"I gave birth during the pandemic and have approached work differently since becoming a new mom. I am more creative, more empathetic, more thorough. I want to be my daughter’s role model."

Staci Bush
Former Executive Director of Medical Affairs

"When I adopted my daughter, my priorities changed. One day I realized my heart had jumped out of my body and was crawling on the floor. But as mothers, we have to put our own masks on first. A little self-care. That 90-minute massage makes me a better mother for 90 days."

Erika Velazquez
Head of Marketing, New Stand

"There have been so many moments where mom life and work life have blended together! Most recently it was probably my potty-training toddler shouting how proud he was of pooping in the potty while I was dialed into an internal cross-functional meeting."

Jossy Lee
MIT-trained Innovator & Creator of Mommy Goes To Work

"The pandemic has strengthened my ability to switch from one task to another—from personal to professional. From changing my son’s last-minute diaper to hosting a virtual board meeting (yeah, those things happened within moments of each other)."

 is the author and business leader behind the Seventh Level Engagement Framework, which has transformed how we measure learning success and is taught in MBA programs worldwide. 

The increasing popularity of hybrid and remote work has changed the way organizations function. Throughout my career, I've worked with startups, Fortune 100 companies, and nonprofits across industries, and I’ve experienced firsthand the challenges of managing distribute teams and maintaining engagement.

, which helps organizations authentically and meaningfully connect with their employees, particularly in a hybrid/remote environment. Here, I share my personal experiences and insights on what has worked for me and my teams in mixed work settings, drawing on my extensive experience across industries.

Level One: Determine Preferred Communication Methods

In a virtual-heavy environment, it's essential to establish how each team member prefers to be communicated with, whether it's through texting, Slack messaging, or phone calls. This can help reduce disengagement and ensure smoother communication.

Level Two: Ensure Clarity and Prevent Confusion

Messaging apps like Slack can be fantastic for productivity, but also create opportunities for miscommunication. Make sure to find the best use for different tools and avoid the temptation to misuse them. For important discussions, schedule a Zoom meeting or at least make a phone call to prevent misunderstandings.

Hybrid work can come with its fair share of distractions. Encourage employees to create a designated workspace and establish routines to stay focused and productive throughout the day.

The Seventh Level Engagement Framework helps organizations authentically and meaningfully connect with their employees.

Help your team members set goals and priorities to ensure tasks are completed efficiently. Establish regular check-ins and provide the necessary resources and support to empower them to work effectively.

Encourage your team to set boundaries between work and personal life, taking breaks and practicing self-care. This helps prevent burnout and maintain overall wellbeing.

Building employee engagement with even partially remote teams is a challenge. At this level, leaders inspire their team members to set goals that will make a difference in their lives. Create a space that gives employees a chance to share their thoughts on improving the company and inspire them to set goals for themselves and the organization.

Level Seven: Maintain Authentic Connections

The seventh level is all about fostering authentic connections and having real talks when you can't hang out in real life. Reaching this level starts by doing the work of the previous six levels. Organizations that achieve this level enjoy higher achievement across the board, a workforce united around a mission, and a deeper level of connection with customers.

By following the Seventh Level Engagement Framework, leaders can effectively navigate the challenges of remote work and create a more connected and engaged workforce, regardless of the industry or organization size.

7 Steps to Engage Hybrid Employees 

It won’t shock you to learn there’s a massive increase in employee feelings of isolation since hybrid work has become prevalent—but a recent poll suggests that a staggering 70% of workers feel disengaged from their day-to-day roles. 

To help people leaders understand how to re-engage teams via smart investments in company culture, New Stand CEO David Garcia hosted a recent webinar on how to take your culture strategy to the next level. Here, part one of the top takeaways:


The universally accepted view of the employee lifespan is a 

, where accumulated experiences determine whether or not an employee stays at a company. But when you design a milestone-only based journey, the moments are often irregular, inconsistent, and lack context.

Instead, think about a model that reflects how people actually experience work. Everyday experiences create a baseline of satisfaction that influences those more notable moments. Not everyone feels the same about onboarding or performance reviews or happy hours. What's critical for each employee differs from person to person. 

How to improve someone's emotional state and drive deeper engagement: Care for the whole person 

Let’s take an example: Automatic is a remote-first team well-known for building connections within a globally distributed workforce. How? Structured socialization. Once a year, for instance, everyone gathers for an epic company offsite, in a single location, to share experiences together. But more importantly they focus on 

First, there are interest-based Slack channels. Second, employees can log into “open coworking calls” while working to mimic in-person serendipity. Third are randomized pair-off meetings, where two employees from different teams are paired together for social time. They also hold employee-led social calls around everything from adult coloring to DJ dance parties, and show-and-tell with employees’ kids.

Another example: Brookfield Asset Management is an in-person team. They're the world's largest owner of commercial real estate, so presence is really important for them, and they excel at creating 

. It’s proven that intentional breaks increase productivity, creativity, and help people cycle between different work modes.

Brookfield has dedicated up to 40% of its office floor plans to social space for interaction. New Stand also helps them provide structured, semi-monthly programming—food and drink tastings, team building events, company celebrations where you can meet colleagues—situations where people can have fun and engage in a light way. 

Employees are happier when they're connected to each other, and Brookfield reaps the benefits of a team that isn't burned out—

How to Upskill Your Culture Strategy

Gratitude has become a buzzy word in the past few years, but even if you’ve nailed thankfulness as part of your personal self-care practice, have you considered how gratitude comes into play for your team? As 

 notes, employee recognition is a hugely important factor when it comes to retention. In a 2016 study titled 

, researchers defined three levels of workplace gratitude:

, is when an employee has an experience they respond to with gratitude—the example they use is being appreciative of a colleague who takes time out to help them learn how to do something new.

, which is the accumulation of episodes of gratitude that lead to an overall more positive feeling for that person at work.

The culmination of all of this on an organizational level is called 

—when a majority of the company is experiencing persistent feelings of gratitude for each other.

But those warm and fuzzy feelings don’t come out of nowhere—they have to be fostered by those in a position to really shape the company culture. Ultimately, gratitude is like a muscle that has to be exercised, and if you can’t clearly identify ways you’re expressing gratitude for a job well done, chances are there’s room for improvement. 

Here are a few ways to reshape your leadership skills to express more gratitude in 2023:

Tilt the Feedback Scales Toward the Positive

While sharing constructive criticism effectively is a necessary tool for any leader, research published in the 

 clearly shows that “a little negative feedback goes a long way”. On the other hand, it’s hard to have too much positive feedback. One of the best ways to help an employee improve their performance is to reinforce and highlight what 

There’s no need to have a scarcity mindset around giving kudos—outside of the big recognition moments, like awards and promotions, sharing a few grateful words for a quick turnaround or well-done presentation is a small investment by a manager that has an outsized impact. You don’t have to be fawning or patronizing, just make a mental note to look for valid moments to share a virtual pat on the back.

While team appreciation is essential, researchers at 

 also identified that publicly rewarding individual team members can have what’s called a “recognition spillover effect.” In other words, the good vibes are contagious. The key is making sure this happens frequently, so there’s a regular rotation of winners.


Humans have a remarkable ability to normalize changes, which means that unless you and your team pause to reflect, it can be easy to forget how much you’ve accomplished. Once you have your daily or weekly shoutouts down, think about when makes sense to set aside more space for celebrating wins. This could be a yearly offsite, a quarterly outing with your direct reports, or a low-key event like an ice cream social.

Keep track of big changes through the year and go over them as a group. Did three of your team members get promoted? That’s huge! Did you all land a record number of clients? Seeing the stats in black and white can be majorly motivating for everyone involved.

One of the best ways to help an employee improve their performance 

 to reinforce and highlight what *is* working.

When the time comes to go beyond verbal recognition, thoughtfulness goes a long way. Instead of sharing generic gift cards for outstanding employees or to mark the completion of a big project, take a poll or think outside the box to ideate a perk that will surprise and delight.

Have a box of chic office upgrades or handpicked snacks 

 right to their desk, or consider hosting a speaker who can help with professional development. Bring a human touch to the table, to show your team you're truly invested in not just their performance week to week, but also their job satisfaction and the overall arc of their career.

While it may feel old fashioned, penning a single-sentence thank you note on a piece of paper will always be impactful. A Slack or an email is great, but this remote-friendly option (remember the mail?) is a step up.

Follow some classic Emily Post-esque advice and keep a stack of thank you notes on your desk, so you can dash one off for a team member who helped you out in a pinch or blew you away in that meeting. Plus, this one will have added value for you, as well—writing thank you notes has proven 

The best team members are the most reliable—the ones who show up prepared, and meet their deadlines as much as possible. So show them the same respect in turn by treating your check-in times as sacred, and replying to them as quickly as you would to a client.

While this might not seem like a gratitude practice at first glance, it’s a way to show mutual respect and say thanks without doing so explicitly. Things will come up, but being reliable and communicative will let your team know you appreciate them and value their time and mental health.

What It’s Really Like Being a Working Mom Right Now

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Lacey Gutekunst
Chief of Staff, Museum of Women

Sherri Carpineto
Director, AposHealth

Jessica Torres Cooper
Editorial Director, Hearst Magazines

Barbara Mortimer
Senior Product Manager, New Stand

Staci Bush
Former Executive Director of Medical Affairs

Erika Velazquez
Head of Marketing, New Stand

Jossy Lee
MIT-trained Innovator & Creator of Mommy Goes To Work

7 Steps to Engage Hybrid Employees

How to Upskill Your Culture Strategy

18 Employee Recognition Scripts for a Job Well Done

What It’s Really Like Being a Working Mom Right Now

Share

Lacey GutekunstChief of Staff, Museum of Women

Sherri CarpinetoDirector, AposHealth

Jessica Torres CooperEditorial Director, Hearst Magazines

Barbara MortimerSenior Product Manager, New Stand

Staci BushFormer Executive Director of Medical Affairs

Erika VelazquezHead of Marketing, New Stand

Jossy LeeMIT-trained Innovator & Creator of Mommy Goes To Work

7 Steps to Engage Hybrid Employees

How to Upskill Your Culture Strategy

18 Employee Recognition Scripts for a Job Well Done

Lacey Gutekunst
Chief of Staff, Museum of Women

Sherri Carpineto
Director, AposHealth

Jessica Torres Cooper
Editorial Director, Hearst Magazines

Barbara Mortimer
Senior Product Manager, New Stand

Staci Bush
Former Executive Director of Medical Affairs

Erika Velazquez
Head of Marketing, New Stand

Jossy Lee
MIT-trained Innovator & Creator of Mommy Goes To Work